Underwear Shopping + Packing light

Yup. You read the title right. We're talking about underwear over here today. Underwear, and self-worth, and creating space. Because really, how many of us believe that we're worth buying the new underwear BEFORE our old look like they've gone through hell and back. I hope it's you that feels worth it, buying the new I mean, because I don't always. I struggle with knowing if I'm depriving myself and not believing I'm worth something, or if I'm being too extravagant in my wants and being materialistic. Anyone else? 

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I ordered 10 for $35 undies on sale from Aerie and then immediately felt guilty. Maybe I don't REALLY need them. Maybe I should be putting my money towards something else. My friend and I were texting about all the sales over the holiday weekend and how we feel like it's extravagant to buy ourselves new items that aren't from a thrift store. She mentioned that maybe it's because we grew up somewhat poor. I agreed. I do not, however, want to live with a poverty mentality moving forward, so I'm trying hard to break those habits, change my mindset around money and remind myself that I AM WORTH BUYING NEW CLOTHING. So I ordered the underwear. And maybe it is a bit extravagant, but who needs to wear holey (not to be confused with holy) underwear? I'm realizing that when my clothes have multiple holes in them that it is a NEED to replace them. Not a want, simply necessary. 

This not-okay-to-buy-myself-clothes mentality was confirmed in me last week when I bought a bunch of clothes at Target for my girl. I piled the cart with multiple pairs of little leggings, t-shirts and a cute jacket. I didn't think twice about it. She needed clothing, having outgrown nearly everything in her closet. I didn't hesitate for a second to buy her what she needed. Yet when I go to buy myself a pair of leggings for $10... somehow they seem too expensive. So much of the time I talk myself out of buying clothes, convincing myself that my money could be better spent elsewhere. So here I am taking steps to conquer that. Taking advantage of sweater sales and undie sales this week. Throwing away the old, the worn out, the no-longer-fits. Creating space for the new. Creating space to acknowledge that I'm worth buying never-worn-before brand new clothing. 

I've been doing a lot of throwing away and clearing out in general. I started packing up some of my books and rarely used things for my upcoming move in January. I threw out four trash bags of stuff in the process and it felt wonderful. It is so very freeing to throw out the old and create space for newness in one's life. I want to start this next season of marriage and living in a new town lighter. I want to start it free, clear, and focused. I want to pack light. 

So here's to all of us ladies. Here's to our self-worth. Here's to conquering poverty without succumbing to materialism. Here's to living up to our potential, knowing our value, and letting go of the lies. And maybe, just maybe for today that means buying new underwear.

Want, Need, Wear, Read | My top Christmas Shopping Ideas 2017

I love, love, love the idea of basing Christmas gift giving off of this little poem. Especially for children. It's easy, simple, clear and it. is. enough! Sometimes minimal can seem grinch-like, but I think this speaks abundance in a good healthy way. 

"Something you want, something you need, something to wear, something to read." 

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Up until now I've not had kids, and we are currently in the in-between stage as a family before I marry my guy in January, and have his sweet kids with us. So this year we are sort of-kind of following this poem, not so much intentionally. We are just doing a minimal Christmas due to the fact that we are having a big ole wedding celebration a month later in January! 

Here are my top feel-good-after-shopping picks for you this Christmas! 

(Click on the photos to shop. No affiliate links today, I just believe in these businesses!)

 

Something you Want

Coffee. Coffee. Coffee! I pretty much always want coffee. This could also fit under the "need" category! My fiance's shop Drinklings hand roasts each batch, bringing fresh coffee right to your table! A great gift for yourself or others, you can't go wrong with any of their coffees. I'm a self-admitted coffee snob, and I LOVE the quality of this coffee. This Sumatra helps support human trafficking abolition. 10% off your entire order for Cyber Monday!   www.drinklings.coffee

 

Something you Need

These tea towels will leave you feeling good about your shopping. Making any kitchen look fantastic, the ultra-soft kitchen towels are handwoven in a traditional loom by a women-led cooperative receiving a fair wage in India. Yobel Market has other great gift options supporting those who need it as well! www.yobelmarket.com

 

Something to Wear

A t-shirt from It Is Written Apparel Co., owned by my friends Lindsey and Lindsay. You will LOVE giving these outrageously soft, sweatshop-free t-shirts to your friends and family this year. I have the grey logo tee and it's so perfectly comfy. Free shipping for Cyber Monday on purchases over $40! www.itiswrittenapparel.com

 

 

Something to Read

This book written by my friend Bri McKoy will invite you to the table in a new, transformative way. Perfect for the season of advent, you'll want to slow down and dwell on Jesus, then welcome in the New Year by creating new traditions and experiences. Bri's heart, storytelling, and the way she invites you to Jesus will leave you inspired and encouraged that you are enough. 

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On Transition

I'm moving to Kentucky in January.

I don't yet know where I'll be working or living. I don't know any of the things really. The one thing I do know is who I'll be exploring this newness with: my husband. I'm getting married, y'all! 

January 27th marks a new era for me, a new season. Just like this one that's coming as fall moves in on us. The leaves flicker with color, it's still dark when I wake up, the morning air is fresh and cool and makes me want to sit on the porch and drink coffee without ceasing. Ever. The beauty is all over. The trees letting go of their old leaves, creating room for new ones in the next season. This speaks life and life and more life to me. I just love it! 

I'm equal parts curious and stressed about what life is going to look like in a few months. Andrew and I peek at houses online and they get closed on before we can go look with our realtor, it's a quick market out there. At least in our price range. So we look and dream and talk and don't yet know where we'll live. 

I applied for a job and didn't get it. I worry that I'm subconsciously sabotaging job opportunities because all I really want to do is write a book and bake pies, yet those things don't exactly pay the mortgage so I keep looking, perusing, praying; full of wonder about what's to come. 

And I'm happy. I'm happy for the first time in what feels like forever. I'm looking forward to life, to my future, to spending my days with the people I love. The best part is that I know it's God. I know God set this up, because there's not a chance in the world that I could have (that's another story for another time). So today.  I'm so grateful for transition. So much of the transition in my life has been negative, has been a have-to kind of thing instead of an i'm-choosing-this. 

I'm so grateful for new beginnings and fresh starts and second chances. I'm so grateful for a God who restores. <3 There were so many times that I though God would never be able to make anything good at of my messes, that it wasn't possible for anything better to come along, that there was no way life could be beautiful again. I was so wrong. Love comes in and restores and heals and brings life. I'm a living example of love's goodness.

Saturday for the Soul

Happy Saturday. Happy weekend. 

For me this weekend means driving out of state to visit my guy and his kiddos. Yeah, I drive a lot these days (long distance relationships do that to you!) while drinking coffee of course, and listening to all the good tunes I can find on Spotify. The early morning drives are my favorite. The roads are still bare and the foggy mist sits over the treetops as the sun rises behind them. I sip my coffee and wake up slowly. I pray, I breathe, it's become a space of rest for me.

I'm finding new rhythms of rest in my life right now. I'm more active again and traveling a fair amount, while thinking and planning for the future and still maintaining my day to day work and life. It's been... different. I love stability and systems and routine. It keeps me stable and allows space for me to be creative. I create best when I'm surrounded by structure. I allow myself to adjust to new schedules and timing and I keep telling myself to rest.

Rest. It's not something I've ever been good at, though I find I'm learning. I'm talking about true rest here, not the netflix and chill version, but deep soul rest, spirit rest, that kind that leaves me remembering who God is and that I can trust him with all those little things that build up throughout the week and all those big things that are weighing on my heart. Rest is freeing. Rest will take the stress and the striving and the worry and toss them out the window, leaving you with a sweet breeze blowing through your hair and a deep breath of its-all-gonna-be-okay. 

 

For today. Saturday. It's all gonna be okay. 

 

Here are a few promised pictures of the macrame wall hanging I made that I talked about a few weeks ago.

Saturday for the Soul

It's Saturday y'all!

Hopefully that means you get to drink coffee and enjoy a slow morning with something or someone you love. I'm cleaning house and working on a macrame wall hanging today. Pictures to come later. 

It seems the summer days are already fading, I feel school in the air and I suddenly want to do all-the-projects. I know... it's not even fall yet, but you get me, yeah? The urge to clean and organize for a new season? If it's hit you too, you'll love this $10 off at Grove Collaborative, my all time favorite store for home products. Discount Mrs. Meyers products? Yes. Please.  SHOP HERE

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a few more goodies:

My friend Abby talks about quieting fear to create space for faith. http://bit.ly/2uHGxeQ

Love these thoughts from the Art of Simple on why you're having food cravings. http://bit.ly/2ujreq8

 

That's a wrap for now! Do you have a  favorite Saturday tradition? Share below if you like!